If you’re looking for a way to deepen your intimacy and connection with your lover, a lingam massage might be the answer. This sensual erotic massage can bring people closer together in unique ways because of its unique nature. Let’s explore what lingam massage is and what it can do for your intimate connections.
Lingam massage is an erotic massage
Lingam massage is a wonderful kind of erotic tantric massage. Lingam is the Sanskrit word for “penis”, so the lingam massage is all about the penis, testicles, perineum, and prostate. This massage is great for people looking to reconnect with their sexuality or explore their bodies in new ways. Tantric massage is also wonderful for couples because it is intimate and connection-building. You can learn much about your lover by exploring this erogenous zone and seeing what makes them moan.
What is tantric massage?
Many of us may have heard of tantric sex, but tantric massage is slightly different. It’s still rooted in the same ancient spiritual practice of tantra, but it’s massage-centric rather than sex-centric. Tantric massage uses breathing techniques, eye contact, and focusing on energy flow to create a wonderful erotic massage that’s both sensual and healing. It’s about the connection between the masseuse and the massage receiver, which makes it great for couples. You don’t have to be a massage expert to give one of these massages.
Intimacy is important for couples
Intimacy comes in all forms and is important for all relationships. But it’s essential for romantic couples since this helps nurture your bond. If you’re unsure how to build that intimacy and connection, it can be intimidating to figure out where to start. A lingam massage is a great place to begin reaffirming your connection and building more intimacy. It’s a simple and easy way to begin with, low pressure and low stakes.
Feel more deeply connected
Our connections with other people are very important. This is how we feel understood, listened to, and relate to others. And we want this with people we love very much. A lingam massage provides space and energy to deepen those connections with our lovers and partners. By exploring each other’s bodies, you learn much about what makes your lover feel good and react in certain ways. You’ll feel closer together through this intimate knowledge of each other and strengthen your connection to one another.
Think about a lingam massage this way
Lingam massages are all about celebrating a man’s sexuality and his lingam. The massage should encompass his penis and testicles, and even his perineum and prostate if you feel more adventurous. When you’re giving the massage, focus on thinking about how you admire your man and what you love about him. The energy you put out will flow through you to your partner’s lingam and encourage his energy to flow. You’re building not just a physical connection but a spiritual one.
Getting ready for a lingam massage
The great thing about erotic massages is that, from beginning to end, there are so many opportunities to build connection and intimacy. It’s easy to make a whole afternoon or date night centred around the lingam massage. Before you begin, there are a few things we recommend you gather or do to help out your lingam massage:
- Massage oil, in a scent that you like. Warm massage oil is even better.
- Towels to protect your sheets or other surfaces from the massage oil.
- Turn the lights down low and set the mood just right. This is all about feeling intimate together.
- Spend time kissing and touching each other before beginning. You don’t have to jump straight into the massage. Focus on each other’s bodies and what feels good, but don’t get too distracted!
- Be comfortable. Whether lying in bed or couch, turning up the temperature, or putting on the right playlist, you want to be comfy and not worry about things.
- Turn off your mobile. Don’t get interrupted by unnecessary phone calls and texts.
Flow from one massage to another
A great way to lead into a lingam massage is by starting with a full body massage. You can massage your partner’s back and butt, his thighs and calves. Let him roll over and massage the front of his legs before working up to his lingam. By doing a full body massage before a lingam massage, you spend time helping your lover relax and ease into the experience. You can also use that time to do breathing exercises together, building that wonderful sensual connection you’re looking for. It also helps the massage giver ease into a lingam massage without intimidation. The stage is already set.
Giving the lingam massage
As you massage your lover’s lingam, use gentle but firm strokes. Start with maybe a couple of fingers before using your whole hand to slide up and down the lingam. Experiment with open flat palms or gently wrapping your hand around his penis. Remember that the goal isn’t orgasm but to massage and encourage energy and blood flow. Run your hands down to his testicles and gently massage each one. You can also ask him if things feel good, what he would like more, and what doesn’t feel great. Adjust your massage techniques accordingly. Explore the whole area slowly but with purpose. You can also experiment with pressure, rubbing in circles versus lines, and one or two hands.
Remove all the pressure
Don’t stress about whether or not you’re doing it “right” – as long as you’re both having a good time, that’s what matters. It’s okay if the receiver doesn’t have any orgasms. It’s okay if you don’t want to explore prostate massage. There’s nothing wrong with lingam massages blending into having sex. Release all expectations and enjoy the lingam massage for what it is. You can’t force connection and intimacy, so let it grow naturally between the two of you. Feeling pressured to do certain things will make it much harder to let go. Don’t hold each other to any secret standards or expectations, and enjoy exploring with no reservations.
Complimenting and admiration
Another great way to build connection during a lingam massage is to compliment your lover’s lingam. Tell him about how you find him attractive and desirable. You can talk about how you enjoy giving him pleasure and how much pleasure you get from it. Let your words flow naturally. It’s okay to stumble a little, but it’ll become easier and smoother with practice. Also, say things you mean and don’t lie. That doesn’t help anyone. It’s much better to give just two compliments you mean than five compliments you don’t.
Enjoy the energy flow
Tantric massage can be very spiritual because it’s about energetic connection and flow. The massage should encourage energy flow in the lingam and receiver’s body. And the giver should feel their energy flowing through them as they give the massage. Picture waves of pleasure moving back and forth between the two of you. Imagine that pleasure rippling out like water from everywhere you touch. The spiritual aspect may be very different for you, but spending a little time picturing these things may strengthen the connection between you. You can see how your energy affects each other intimately and can easily use this idea to initiate things in the future.
Ending a lingam massage
The most common way to end a lingam massage is by letting pleasure peak into an incredible orgasm. This is what’s called a happy ending. It’s a beautiful way to ride those last intense waves of pleasure and feel a deep energetic orgasm throughout the whole body. Slowly work your partner up and up those waves of fun until you think he’s peaking, and then don’t stop. Let him tip over that edge and enjoy that orgasm. Your other option is, of course, sex, but that means that the lingam massage is no longer about him. You may want to chat about this beforehand to see what feels best for both of you.
Spent time together afterwards
When you’re all done with your lingam massage, spend some time cuddling or taking a nap together. Or maybe a warm shower is more your speed. But don’t go off on your way afterwards. Let the intense connection between you settle down before you go about your day. Spend time together, coming back down and relaxing in each other’s arms. This will help that connection feel good in a more relaxed space, not just a sexually charged one. It’ll also deepen that intimacy since you’re spending time together in a slightly more vulnerable state. This is an important step, so don’t skip it.
For the receivers
If you’re a gentleman reading this and thinking there’s no way you could lay back and let your lover give your lingam a massage, you may want to rethink that. It can be hard for many men to take a more passive role in bed, but you’ll get so much out of it. Let your lover take the lead with a lingam massage and enjoy the honouring and worship of your masculinity. They adore and love you for a reason – let them express that through a lingam massage. Talk to them during the massage if you need to feel a little more active. Don’t direct but let them know what does and doesn’t feel good. Then relax, lay back, and enjoy yourself.
Explore lingam massage again and again
The wonderful thing about lingam massage is that it’s so simple to do that you can give one again and again. Try out different techniques. See how long you can give the massage before reaching that ultimate pleasure peak. You can explore perineum or prostate massage to heighten the pleasure. Explore sex toy options if that’s something that interests you both. But, ultimately, remember the purpose of the lingam massage and keep that central to what you’re doing. You want to build intimacy and connection, not just have a great time in bed.
Keep your intimacy and connection flowing
A lingam massage shouldn’t be the only thing you do to build and sustain intimacy and connection in your relationship, but it is an amazing tool to use. If you do it regularly, you may get more and deeper benefits over time. An important aspect is to remember how that intimacy and connection feel during the lingam massage and explore ways to bring that into the rest of your life. Tantric techniques aren’t just for massage and sex, after all.
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